The Accidental Outsiders

Accidental outsider on a bridge with the University of Oxford University on the right and a northern English town on the left.
Why We Need More Than One Perspective

I have come to realise that the most valuable education I ever received was learning to see the same country from two completely different points of view.

I was reminded of this recently while listening to Andy Burnham speak about the “Makerfield test”: his promise that national policy should be judged by whether it improves life in places such as Makerfield, rather than merely satisfying the economic and political orthodoxies of Westminster.

I was attracted to the idea immediately. That was not altogether surprising. Burnham and I have several things in common.

We both came from relatively humble backgrounds in the North of England. We both went on to study humanities at Oxbridge — English at Cambridge in his case, French and German at Oxford in mine. We both entered worlds far removed from those in which we had grown up. And both of us, in very different ways and on vastly different public stages, appear to have become increasingly interested in the distance between the Britain described by its institutions and the Britain experienced by many of its people.

That does not mean I agree with Burnham on every issue. I don’t.

What interests me is the journey between two social worlds, and what that journey allows a person to see.

Learning to see two Britains

Social mobility is normally described as movement in one direction.

A child from an ordinary background works hard, receives a good education, enters a prestigious university and rises into a more prosperous or influential part of society. The story is presented as an escape: departure from one world and successful arrival in another.

But that is not quite how it feels. You do not necessarily leave the first world behind. Instead, you acquire a second vantage point.

At Oxford, I encountered people whose intelligence and talent were undeniable. But I also encountered people who had been prepared from childhood to enter rooms in which power was exercised. They understood the vocabulary, the conventions and the unwritten rules. They spoke to professors, employers and authority figures with an assurance that did not always reflect greater ability. It often reflected something simpler: nobody had ever suggested to them that the room might not belong to them.

This is one of the least discussed advantages of privilege.

Privilege does not always announce itself as wealth. Sometimes it appears as confidence. It appears as ease in unfamiliar surroundings, freedom from embarrassment, fluency in the language of institutions and the assumption that one’s opinions will be heard.

To the person who possesses these advantages, they may feel like competence.

To the person who does not, the absence of them may feel like personal failure.

Crossing the class divide teaches you to recognise the difference.

You remember the families for whom an unexpected bill is not an inconvenience, but a crisis. You remember people who are intelligent but have never been encouraged to think of universities, professions or public life as places for them. You remember how authority looks from below.

But you also begin to understand the people who design policies, manage institutions, allocate capital and shape public debate. You learn their language. Sometimes you become one of them.

You see Britain from both sides.

What economic success looks like from below

This double vision changes the meaning of economic statistics.

A government announces that the economy is growing. The stock market rises. Corporate profits increase. Property becomes more valuable. Ministers point to employment figures and national averages as evidence that the country is succeeding.

All of these measurements may be accurate.

But they do not answer the most important question:

Who is experiencing the success?

A rise in property prices is good news for someone who owns several properties. It may be disastrous for somebody trying to buy a first home.

A strong stock market enriches people with substantial investments and pensions. It means far less to families who own no financial assets and are struggling to pay their electricity bills.

Growth can take place while public services deteriorate. Average wealth can rise while wealth becomes more concentrated. Employment can remain high while wages fail to provide security, housing or hope.

Seen from Westminster, these may appear to be complications within an otherwise successful economic model.

Seen from Makerfield, or from many towns across northern England such as Runcorn where I grew up, they may be the model’s most important result.

This is why Burnham’s test has such immediate emotional force. It asks politicians to stop treating people as supporting evidence for an economic theory and instead ask whether the theory is improving their lives.

But it also reflects a more general truth: your assessment of any system depends partly on where you are standing inside it.

The education hidden inside the humanities

There may be another reason Burnham and I are drawn towards this way of thinking.

Neither of us studied economics, management, law or PPE. We studied humanities.

In modern public debate, the humanities are often treated as decorative. Science, technology and economics are described as useful, while literature, languages, history and philosophy are expected to justify their existence.

But the humanities teach something our political and economic systems desperately need.

They teach us to enter realities other than our own.

A novel asks us to inhabit another person’s consciousness. History asks how people and societies arrived at their present condition. Philosophy asks what we owe one another. A foreign language teaches that our own way of dividing, naming and expressing reality is not the only possible one.

Studying French and German did more than enable me to communicate in other languages. It challenged the unconscious assumption that the British way of seeing the world was the natural or neutral one.

Living abroad later deepened that lesson.

After 16 years in Germany, and now beginning a new life in Spain with an Indonesian husband, I no longer see Britain entirely from within Britain. Europe is not an abstract bureaucracy called “Brussels”. Migration is not simply a number in a newspaper. Borders, residence rights and administrative systems are no longer theoretical matters. Foreign policy is no longer conducted in distant countries inhabited by anonymous populations.

To live between countries is to acquire another form of double vision. You become what I term “an accidental outsider.”

You see your own nation more clearly because you are no longer surrounded by its assumptions, something I had experienced at an abstract level in the writings of Diderot and Voltaire.

You also become more suspicious of political systems that can calculate the economic cost of a decision while remaining curiously unable to imagine its human consequences.

Data can tell us where poverty exists.

Literature may help us understand what poverty does to a person.

Economics can measure migration.

Languages and lived experience may help us understand what it means to become a migrant.

Statistics can tell us that a region is declining.

History can explain why its people no longer trust the institutions announcing the latest programme for their renewal.

The humanities are not a retreat from the real world. They are among our best defences against governing that world without sufficiently understanding the people who live in it.

Britain’s geography of power

The same question of perspective applies to the way Britain is governed.

The United Kingdom remains extraordinarily centralised. Regions with distinct histories, economies and identities are repeatedly expected to apply for funding, permission or attention from London.

The underlying assumption is rarely questioned: wisdom and legitimacy become more concentrated as one moves closer to Whitehall.

Burnham’s political experience in Greater Manchester has led him towards a different conclusion. His argument for greater devolution is not merely that Westminster sometimes makes the wrong decisions. It is that Westminster makes too many decisions in the first place.

This matters because the centre inevitably sees places differently from the people who live there.

From London, a town may appear as a collection of indicators: productivity, employment, educational attainment, transport connectivity and levels of deprivation.

From inside that town, it is a network of memory, identity, family, opportunity and loss.

Policies designed remotely may be rational in aggregate and destructive in practice. They may improve a national average while hollowing out a particular community. They may create efficiencies that look impressive in a report and feel like abandonment on the ground.

Perhaps Britain’s problem is not simply that Westminster has forgotten the North.

Perhaps the deeper problem is that Westminster still believes it has the right to remember the North on the North’s behalf.

Social mobility is not enough

For decades, Britain has presented social mobility as the answer to inequality.

Find talented children from modest backgrounds. Help them reach excellent universities. Allow them to enter professions and institutions previously closed to them.

That is worthwhile. My own life was transformed by educational opportunity.

But there is an uncomfortable limitation to this model.

Social mobility can help individuals escape an unequal system without making the system itself more equal.

A society cannot solve regional poverty by helping a small number of successful young people leave poorer regions. Nor can it solve class inequality simply by allowing exceptional individuals to join an existing elite.

The question is not only how many people can climb the ladder.

We must also ask who built the ladder, where it leads, and why so many people are expected to remain beneath it.

The greatest social value of mobility may therefore lie not in personal advancement but in the perspective carried across the divide.

Institutions need people who know what those institutions look like from outside.

Universities need people who remember what it felt like to believe university was “not for people like us”.

Governments need people who understand that a policy can be statistically successful and humanly disastrous.

The media need people who recognise that the national conversation is often conducted in a language millions of citizens neither use nor trust.

And prosperous societies need people who understand that poverty is not merely the absence of money. It is often the absence of margin, choice, confidence and the expectation of being heard.

The responsibility of seeing both sides

There is, however, no automatic virtue in crossing a social boundary.

People can enter privileged institutions and adopt their assumptions completely. They can use education to distance themselves from their origins. They can become more contemptuous of those who did not make the same journey, imagining that personal success proves the system is fair.

Indeed, meritocracy can create a particularly unforgiving elite.

If successful people believe they reached the top entirely through talent and effort, they may conclude that everybody who remained below simply failed to try hard enough.

Double vision, or becoming an accidental outsider, must therefore be preserved deliberately. It requires memory. It requires humility.

It requires an awareness that intelligence is widely distributed even when opportunity is not.

It also requires resisting the comforting idea that entering a powerful institution means fully understanding the people over whom that institution exercises power.

This may be the most valuable thing a person from a modest background can carry into an elite room: not authenticity as a performance, nor a sentimental claim to represent everyone they grew up alongside, but the knowledge that the world looks radically different depending on which side of the door you occupy.

The most important education

Oxford changed my life.

It gave me knowledge, confidence and opportunities my younger self could scarcely have imagined. It introduced me to languages, cultures and ways of thinking that eventually carried me far beyond the country in which I was born.

But Oxford was only one part of my education.

The North taught me how power looks from a distance.

Oxford taught me how power explains itself.

Teaching showed me how institutions affect individual lives.

Living abroad taught me to see Britain from the outside.

And moving between these worlds taught me that no single vantage point is sufficient.

This is what I recognised in Burnham’s Makerfield test: not a complete political philosophy, and certainly not an answer to every difficult national and international question, but an insistence that perspective matters.

Who is speaking?

Where are they standing?

What can they see from there?

And what remains invisible to them?

We spend a great deal of time asking how to help more people cross Britain’s class divide.

Perhaps we should ask an additional question: how do we ensure that those who cross it employ their experience to create a fairer society?

“I thought about the breaks that had scored the rhythm of my life. Expansion through rupture. Where others built continuity, I built awareness. And though that awareness didn’t make me happy, it had made me lucid. These breaks had been my real education — violent scholarships in the art of seeing.”  — Níco Durón, Teacher, there are things that I don’t want to learn.

When I Lost God, I Found the Universe

God declares his glory at the rising of the sun.
Photo taken with Oppo X9 on 7th July 2026 at 06:37 am, f2, 15 mm.

“The heavens declare the glory of God.”

For almost ten years, belief in God shaped the way I looked at the night sky.

This morning, at six o’clock, I realised how completely that has changed.

I began my usual jog while Torremolinos was still asleep. The promenade along La Carihuela was almost empty. The only sounds were the rhythmic slap of my trainers against the pavement and the gentle breathing of the Mediterranean.

I reached the harbour wall at Benalmádena just before sunrise.

The sea looked like polished, rippled glass.

Above me, Venus still shone brightly in the deep blue sky while the first orange light slowly crept over the mountains of the Sierra Nevada. They didn’t merely look beautiful. Those mountains are themselves the product of millions of years of continental collision, uplift and erosion. Even the backdrop to an ordinary sunrise carries an almost unimaginable history.

I sat. I started my meditation. I breathed. Then I opened my eyes and watched.

As the Sun finally appeared above the horizon, I found myself overwhelmed — not with worship, but with wonder.

Not because I imagined someone had painted the sunrise for me.

But because I knew what I was actually looking at.


Seven facts that never fail to humble me

Brian Cox has a wonderful gift.

He reminds us that reality is almost always far more astonishing than fiction.

Here are six examples.

1. You are travelling faster than a bullet…

…while sitting perfectly still.

The Earth rotates at about 1,670 km/h at the equator.

It orbits the Sun at roughly 107,000 km/h.

Our Solar System orbits the centre of the Milky Way at about 828,000 km/h.

Meanwhile, the Milky Way itself is hurtling through space at over two million kilometres per hour relative to the cosmic microwave background.

Right now, we are moving through the universe at extraordinary speed. We  simply don’t notice because everything around us is travelling with us.


2. There are ten billion times more planets than hours since the Big Bang

Astronomers now estimate that our Milky Way alone contains around 100–400 billion stars, with most stars likely possessing planets.

Across the observable universe there may be around 10²⁴ planets.

That is one septillion planets.

If every second since the beginning of the universe represented one planet, you would still not have counted even a microscopic fraction of them.


3. Every atom inside your body is older than the Earth

The iron in our blood, the calcium in our bones, the oxygen we are breathing were all forged inside ancient stars that exploded billions of years before the Sun even existed. We are literally made of stardust.

Carl Sagan famously summarised it beautifully:

“We are a way for the cosmos to know itself.”

Literally.


4. The Mycoplasma cell

One of the smallest living things on Earth is a bacterium called Mycoplasma.

Around 5,000 of them placed end to end would stretch only one millimetre.

Yet inside that microscopic cell is a membrane, half a million DNA letters, hundreds of genes, molecular factories called ribosomes, and thousands of proteins performing countless chemical reactions every second.

It isn’t a blob. It is a self-maintaining chemical factory. And it’s alive.

That is magnificent.


5. There are more microbes living inside you than people who have ever lived

The average human body contains roughly 38 trillion bacteria, most living in the gut.

Without them, we couldn’t digest food, produce certain vitamins or even maintain a healthy immune system.

We are not one organism.

We are an ecosystem.


6. Everything alive is literally related.

A blue whale…

an oak tree…

a hummingbird…

a mushroom…

an octopus…

the bacteria living inside your intestine…

and you…

all use essentially the same genetic code.

Every living thing on Earth is related.

Not poetically, metaphorically or mythically.

Literally.


7. Tonight, when we look at the stars…

…we are looking into history.

The light from the Moon is about 1.3 seconds old.

From the Sun? Eight minutes.

From the nearest large galaxy, Andromeda? About 2.5 million years.

The light entering our eyes tonight began its journey when our ancestors were making stone tools.

The James Webb Space Telescope now observes galaxies whose light has travelled for more than 13 billion years.

We do not merely look across space.

We look backwards through time.

I honestly struggle to imagine anything more astonishing than that.


Then I remembered another way of seeing all this

There was a period of my life when I believed something very different.

For nearly ten years I was an evangelical Christian. I believed that God had created the heavens and the earth by speaking.

Genesis begins:

“And God said, ‘Let there be light,’ and there was light.”
— Genesis 1:3 (NIV)

I was taught that the universe ultimately existed to reveal God’s glory.

That human beings had been created to worship Him.

That no sunset, no mountain and no star could ever truly satisfy unless it led us to thank its Creator.

One argument particularly stayed with me.

What is the point of experiencing something beautiful, if you have nobody to thank for it?

At the time, that sounded deeply persuasive. Today, it doesn’t.


Wonder no longer needs an author

Ironically, losing my belief in God did not make the universe smaller.

It made it unimaginably larger.

Instead of being told the answers, I discovered questions.

Instead of certainty, I found endless curiosity.

Instead of myth, I found history.

Every mountain. Every whale. Every oak tree. Every coral reef. Every human brain. Every galaxy. Every living cell.

Each became vastly more interesting once I understood that none of them appeared fully formed.

Each carries within it an astonishing history stretching back billions of years.

Reality became deeper than any miracle story I had ever been taught. As I write the last chapter of my first novel:

Yet one certainty remains: we are constellations of atoms, stardust reassembled by chance and time, hurtling around our sun on a rock at 67,000 mph. DNA coils like ancient runes in every cell, issuing silent instructions: become, live, persist. From this choreography comes breath, thought, memory: a mother’s laughter, longing for distant places, a lover’s hand in the dark. We invent gods and heroes, build cathedrals and poems, grieve, and love. All this from fragile molecules wrapped in skin. Just chemistry. An echo of evolution.

And yet: is it not a miracle that matter dreams at all?

Today, I no longer see humanity as separate from nature. I know that the cells in my own body, the bacteria in my intestine, the dolphins swimming off this coastline, the pine trees on the Sierra Nevada and the swallows flying overhead are all distant cousins on one immense family tree stretching back nearly four billion years. Human unity is not simply a moral aspiration. It is a biological fact. So too is our kinship with every other living thing on Earth.


Does meaning require a creator?

I no longer think so.

Watching today’s sunrise did not feel empty because I wasn’t thanking somebody.

Quite the opposite.

It filled me with gratitude.

Not gratitude directed upwards.

But gratitude simply for existing at all.

For having evolved into a creature capable of understanding even a tiny fragment of what the universe is.

That is more than enough for me.


One unintended consequence

There is one further implication that I hadn’t appreciated when I was a Christian.

Some believers sincerely conclude that because God will one day replace this present world with “a new heaven and a new earth” (Revelation 21:1), environmental destruction is ultimately temporary.

Many Christians reject that conclusion and instead argue that humanity has a God-given responsibility to care for creation. I respect that view.

But I have encountered the first attitude often enough to think it matters.

Once this world becomes merely a waiting room for the next, its long-term future can begin to feel less urgent.

My own perspective has moved in the opposite direction.

If this is the only Earth our civilisation will ever inhabit, then every forest matters. Every coral reef matters. Every species matters.

Because this extraordinary planet is not a rehearsal.

It is home. Not just for human beings, but for every sentient fish, every majestic bird, every minuscule Mycoplasma.


Which story leaves you more awestruck?

One story says:

“And God said, ‘Let there be light.'”

The other says:

Hydrogen formed shortly after the Big Bang.

Gravity slowly gathered it into stars.

Those stars forged heavier elements.

Some exploded as supernovae.

Those atoms became planets.

One of those planets developed self-replicating chemistry.

After nearly four billion years of evolution, one species evolved capable of asking where it came from.

I know which story leaves me speechless.

Not because it is comforting.

But because it is true.


“The most beautiful experience we can have is the mysterious. It is the fundamental emotion that stands at the cradle of true art and true science.”
Albert Einstein

Can Cosmology Provide a Foundation for Human Ethics?

Contemplation of cosmology under the cosmic dawn
How the moon led me to rethink the origins of the universe and humanity’s place and responsibility within it.

As I settle into my new life in Spain, I wake up before dawn in order to jog along the promenade before it gets too hot, watch the sunrise, contemplate cosmology and meditate.

Last week, to the west above the Carihuela, there was a huge, bright, full moon poised low in the sky before the sunrise.

It wasn’t merely bright. It seemed suspended. As if detached from its control of the tides below. Silver against an increasingly blue sky, refusing — for a few precious minutes — to surrender to the approaching sun.

The sea below was calm. The seagulls were swooping down majestically to collect their breakfast. Somewhere behind me, the town was waking. Yet for a brief moment everything felt strangely timeless.

I stood there on the harbour wall longer than I intended. Not because I understood what I was looking at. Indeed, as I meditated, I was startled by how little I did.

That quiet moment began another of my recent intellectual odysseys. I jogged home and began researching in detail the origins of the universe.

The answers I discovered have profoundly changed the way I see both the universe and humanity.

We began with almost nothing

According to our best scientific understanding, the Universe began around 13.8 billion years ago.

In the first few minutes after the Big Bang, almost all that existed were the simplest elements imaginable: hydrogen, helium and tiny traces of lithium.

There was no carbon.

No oxygen.

No calcium.

No iron.

No chlorine.

No lead.

Nothing from which planets, oceans or living organisms could eventually be built.

Everything else had yet to be created.

Stars are not simply lights

The next discovery astonished me even more.

I had always thought of stars as glowing balls of gas.

In reality, they are unimaginably powerful nuclear furnaces.

The identity of every chemical element is determined simply by the number of protons in the nucleus of each atom.

Hydrogen has one proton.

Helium has two.

Carbon has six.

Oxygen has eight.

Iron has twenty-six.

Lead has eighty-two.

Inside stars, gravity compresses matter with such extraordinary force that atomic nuclei are pushed together in a process known as nuclear fusion.

When four hydrogen nuclei fuse together, they produce helium and release enormous amounts of energy.

Later, when stars become even hotter, three helium nuclei combine to create carbon. Carbon can then fuse with helium to produce oxygen. Larger stars continue building heavier and heavier elements through countless further fusion reactions.

Quite literally, the periodic table is assembled one proton at a time.

Eventually, the largest stars manufacture elements all the way to iron. When those stars finally exhaust their fuel, they explode as supernovae, scattering their newly created elements across the galaxy.

During those unimaginably violent explosions, still heavier elements such as gold, lead and uranium are created before being hurled into interstellar space.

Without generations of stars living and dying long before our Solar System existed, neither the Earth nor we ourselves could ever have existed.

We really are made of stardust

Carl Sagan famously said:

“We are a way for the cosmos to know itself.”

He also said that we are made of star stuff.

For years I assumed that was simply a poetic metaphor.

It isn’t.

The hydrogen in the water within my body was formed shortly after the Big Bang itself.

But almost every other element within me has a different origin.

The carbon in my muscles.

The oxygen I breathe.

The calcium in my bones.

The iron carried around my body by my blood.

All of them were forged inside stars that died billions of years before the Earth even formed.

Some of those atoms may once have been part of ancient forests.

Some may have passed through dinosaurs.

Some may have circulated through countless generations of my own ancestors.

Matter itself is endlessly recycled.

The atoms change partners.

The universe never stops reusing its building blocks.

In this way, it is no coincidence that the branching networks of our neurons and the elegant spirals in hurricanes and elements of our DNA echo patterns that also appear throughout the cosmos. Different processes, different scales, yet strikingly familiar forms emerging from the same universe.

Then came another surprise

Just when I thought the story could not become any more remarkable, genetics added another layer.

Every person alive today shares common ancestry.

Research suggests that all living humans inherited their mitochondrial DNA from one woman who lived in Africa roughly 150,000 to 200,000 years ago.

Likewise, all living men inherited their Y chromosome from one man who lived much later.

They were not the only people alive at the time.

They are simply the individuals whose particular genetic lines survived uninterrupted to the present day.

Meanwhile, every generation doubles the number of our ancestors.

Travel back only a few thousand years and our family trees overlap so extensively that the distinctions between “my ancestors” and “your ancestors” begin to disappear.

In a very real biological sense, humanity is one enormous extended family.

A different foundation for responsibility

As the moon faded into the brightening Andalusian sky, I found myself asking a question that science itself cannot answer.

If Carl Sagan was right that “we are a way for the cosmos to know itself,” what follows logically from that?

As far as we currently know, nowhere else has the universe organised itself into beings capable of wondering where the universe came from.

Nowhere else has hydrogen learned to write symphonies.

Or paint masterpieces.

Or decode DNA.

Or ask why anything exists at all.

Perhaps intelligent life is common throughout the cosmos.

I hope it is.

But until we know otherwise, we must take seriously the possibility that conscious beings like ourselves are extraordinarily rare. Maybe even unique.

If that is true, then our responsibility extends far beyond ourselves.

Protecting our planet.

Seeking truth.

Advancing knowledge.

Caring for one another.

Safeguarding future generations.

These are not merely useful social conventions.

They become responsibilities entrusted to the very few beings — perhaps the only beings — capable of understanding what is at stake.

The moon itself had not changed that morning.

Nor had the sea.

Nor the rising sun.

What changed was my understanding.

For the first time, I began to see humanity not as something standing apart from the universe, but as one of the most extraordinary things the universe has so far produced.

Perhaps, after all, the starry heavens above us do not merely invite our curiosity. They really can provide us with the most rational basis for human ethics that we will ever discover.

“Two things fill the mind with ever new and increasing admiration and awe… the starry heavens above me and the moral law within me.”
— Immanuel Kant

I studied for four years at Oxford and Nobody Taught Me How Money Works

The British government has this week announced plans to ban social media access for under-16s. Ministers describe it as a historic intervention to protect children. Newspapers are full of discussion about algorithms, screen addiction and online harms. Yet as I watched the announcement unfold, I found myself asking a different question entirely. Why are we once again arguing about what children should be prevented from doing rather than what they should be taught?

The discussion is presented as a matter of national importance. Ministers speak gravely about online harms. Newspapers speculate about restrictions and enforcement. Experts are summoned to television studios. Committees are established. Reports are commissioned.

But all of my experience as a student and teacher tells me that we are arguing passionately about the wrong problem. At sixty-five years of age, having attended good schools, won a scholarship to Oxford, taught for decades and worked in several countries, I have reached an uncomfortable conclusion: almost nobody ever taught me how money works.

Nobody explained investing. Nobody explained compound interest. Nobody explained pensions. Nobody explained the long-term consequences of inflation. Nobody explained the relationship between taxation and public services. Nobody explained mortgages beyond the most superficial level. Nobody explained the astonishing difference between acquiring assets and merely consuming income.

Yet these are not specialist concerns. They are among the most important forces shaping the lives of ordinary citizens.

They influence where people live, when they retire, whether they accumulate wealth, how vulnerable they are to economic shocks and, ultimately, the degree of freedom they enjoy throughout their lives.

The strange thing is that this educational failure is almost invisible. Some parents complain if their children leave school unable to read Shakespeare. Politicians worry if socially constructed examination results fall.

Universities debate decolonisation, inclusion, safe spaces and artificial intelligence.

Meanwhile, millions of young adults enter the world with little understanding of debt, investment, taxation, pensions or wealth creation.

Nobody seems particularly alarmed. But as a teacher, I find this extraordinary. And as a citizen, I find it deeply disturbing.

As someone who grew up in a working-class family, I find it difficult to avoid an even more uncomfortable observation.

Those who grow up in affluent families often learn these things anyway.

They hear conversations around the dinner table. They observe parents discussing property, investments, inheritance and taxation. They absorb financial knowledge almost by osmosis.

Those from less privileged backgrounds are often far less fortunate.

The result is that schools, which are supposed to reduce inequality of opportunity, usually end up reinforcing it.

I studied languages, theology, literature and philosophy. I do not regret a moment of it. Education transformed my life and broadened my horizons in ways I shall always be grateful for.

Yet if I am completely honest, my grandfather, a builder with far less formal education, may well have understood practical wealth creation better than I did. He understood property. He understood value. He understood patience. Most importantly, he understood that money is not primarily about income. It is about what income becomes over time. That lesson alone may be worth more than half the curriculum I studied. Unfortunately, he passed away when I was five years old, so he could never pass on his wisdom.

The question therefore is not whether children should be protected from harmful content online. Of course they should.

The question is why governments find it easier to regulate TikTok than to ask whether the curriculum itself is preparing young people for adult life.

Why is there endless discussion about screen time but comparatively little discussion about economic literacy?

Why do we devote thousands of classroom hours to subjects that many pupils will never use again while allocating almost no serious time to understanding mortgages, pensions, inflation, taxation, investing and economic reasoning?

And why, after decades of educational reform, do so many intelligent, capable and highly educated adults still feel financially illiterate?

These are not merely personal questions. They are political questions. They are social questions.

And they are ultimately questions about power.

A population that cannot critically evaluate economic arguments is easier to persuade, easier to frighten and easier to divide. It becomes dependent upon experts, commentators and politicians to interpret reality on its behalf.

A population that understands economics is harder to manipulate.

Perhaps that is why the seven economic myths I recently encountered fascinated me so much. I will share them here next week.

These seven myths didn’t just reveal something about economics, but they revealed something about education.

And perhaps, more importantly, about what education still fails to teach.

“Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.”

— W. B. Yeats

If Yeats was right, then perhaps we need to ask whether we are lighting the wrong fires.

 

The rise and fall of every Christian revival

Every revival follows the same bell curve: born in protest, swollen with prophecy, and ending in the death it once defied.

Church renewal movements are born in fire, out of dissatisfaction with the lifeless liturgy of the established church, or the suffocating legalism of groups like the Exclusive Brethren. At first they return to the raw text of Scripture and gather in homes, led not by ordained clergy but by men who claim the authority of the Spirit.

Then comes structure. Buildings. Bands. Youth groups. Paid pastors.

At the crest of the curve come the prophecies: revival is coming, just around the corner, greater than anything seen before. Money is given sacrificially. Lives are rearranged. Large buildings bought. Hope is inflated into certainty.

But the revival does not come.

The failed prophecies are rarely named as failures. No serious apology is made for the emotional pressure, the money raised, or the years of expectancy spent on promises that dissolved into air. The people who joined near the beginning often remain inside the system anyway, not because the prophecy came true, but because they have built their lives inside its language. One reason the cycle works is brutally simple: those with living memory of the last false dawn are eventually buried. The cycle renews itself not by repentance, but by funerals.

On the downward slope, the message softens to attract outsiders. The sharp edges are rounded off. Meetings shortened. Speaking in tongues relegated to prayer meetings. Women step into the pulpit. Social projects begin to replace urgent evangelism. By the time the curve flattens, the movement has drifted back into the same spiritual lethargy from which it once broke free.

And somewhere, quietly, the pattern begins again.

This is not new.

The eighteenth-century Methodist revival carried the same internal logic, though in a different register. Prophecy was not usually delivered as spontaneous announcements of imminent awakening, but woven through sermons, hymns and journals. John Wesley spoke of a “work of God” spreading across England; early Methodists read their experience as the fulfilment of biblical promise, the “latter rain of the Spirit poured out again in the last days.

And yet Methodism, too, followed the curve. What began as a disruptive, Spirit-driven renewal gradually became a structured denomination.

It always does.

What is more interesting is what happens before the next rise.

Recent history gives us several variations on the same descent.

Hillsong shows what happens when a movement builds itself around energy, scale and centralised identity. For a time it feels unstoppable — global, confident, culturally dominant. But when leadership fails and the narrative fractures, the fall is sudden. Not total collapse, but deflation. What was once a movement becomes an organisation trying to stabilise itself.

Mark Driscoll represents another version of the curve: charisma outrunning character. The rise is rapid, the influence undeniable, but the culture formed around the leader cannot bear the weight placed upon it. When the collapse comes, what once looked like authority begins to look like control.

Newfrontiers offers a quieter trajectory. No great implosion, no single scandal at the centre — simply dispersal. A movement built around relational authority fragments into multiple streams. It continues, even grows, but the shared identity thins. What was once a single current becomes a cluster of networks, leaving behind a nagging feeling of dissolution.

Vineyard perhaps shows the most stable outcome of all. No collapse, no dramatic fracture — simply absorption. Its innovations in worship and church culture spread so widely that the movement itself becomes less distinct. It survives by dissolving into the mainstream it once helped reshape.

Sudden deflation. Moral collapse. Gradual dispersal. Quiet absorption.

These are different endings, but they belong to the same curve.

And beneath them lies something more uncomfortable.

These movements do not begin with authority. They begin with relief. A sudden sense that life makes sense, that one is seen, located, given purpose. Meaning becomes structure. Structure becomes authority. Authority becomes identity.

Then, slowly, the system outgrows the intensity that created it.

What felt like life begins to feel like maintenance.

What felt like truth begins to feel like language.

What felt like revival becomes, in time, another form of what it once opposed.

The bell curve is not just a pattern in churches.

It is a pattern in us.

“The most terrible thing of all is when a movement that began in passion ends in habit.”  – Søren Kierkegaard

Sovereignty Begins at the Desktop

Linux desktop workspace representing digital sovereignty, privacy and independence from big tech ecosystems

For years, choosing an operating system was treated as a consumer preference: Mac or Windows. Apple or Microsoft. Design or compatibility.

Those days are ending. Indeed, for me, they have already ended.

My move to Linux was not born of practicality. It began as an explicitly political decision: a small personal protest against what I see as the increasingly troubling direction of the United States and my growing discomfort about privacy and with Europe’s dependence on American technology.

What began as principle, however, quickly became something more exciting. An education, even.

In moving away from mainstream platforms, I discovered not merely a political statement but a better way of computing: faster, calmer, less intrusive, more user-controlled—and one that forced me to confront how casually many of us have entrusted vast quantities of personal data to a handful of foreign corporations.

Increasingly, our technology choices are no longer merely about convenience or aesthetics. They are about jurisdiction, sovereignty, dependence and trust.

The Illusion of Neutral Technology

We have spent two decades pretending that software is apolitical. It is not.

Private data is the so-called new oil.
Cloud platforms are geopolitical assets.
Operating systems are instruments of jurisdiction.
App ecosystems are channels of dependency.

To build one’s digital life entirely on American platforms is not simply to use foreign products. It is to place one’s communications, workflows, data and habits inside systems governed elsewhere.

For years, this dependency seemed harmless because America appeared stable, predictable and aligned with European interests. That assumption now looks far less secure.

Why Linux Appeals Beyond the Technically Curious

My own switch to Linux was motivated initially by principle, but sustained by practical reality.

Linux is, quite simply, excellent.

It offers:

    • greater speed and efficiency
    • far less software bloat
    • more user control
    • minimal intrusive advertising or telemetry
    • freedom from forced ecosystem lock-in
    • a calmer, more focused computing experience

It also avoids a growing trend I find exhausting in mainstream software: the transformation of operating systems into hyperactive consumer platforms.

Notifications.
Recommendations.
Prompts.
Pop-ups.
Embedded AI assistants.
Animated interfaces designed less for work than for perpetual engagement.

Linux, by contrast, still feels like a tool. Not a theme park.

My Preferred Distributions: Mint and Arch

For those exploring Linux, I find two distributions particularly compelling.

Linux Mint: Mature Practicality

Mint is Linux at its most civilised.

Stable, polished, intuitive and highly accessible, it offers a reassuringly traditional desktop experience without sacrificing elegance.

It is the Linux distribution I would recommend to most ordinary users and beginners.

Arch Linux: Radical User Ownership

Arch is a different philosophy entirely.

Minimal, modular and deeply configurable, it demands more of the user—but rewards that effort with extraordinary control.

Arch is not merely software.

It is a statement of intent:

I will shape my tools. My tools will not shape me.

Europe Is Beginning to Think This Way Too

What may once have looked like niche hobbyism is increasingly becoming state policy.

The French government has announced plans to migrate large parts of its public administration away from Windows and toward Linux as part of a broader digital sovereignty strategy.

Other European administrations are exploring or implementing similar moves, including regional and national migrations toward open-source alternatives in Germany and Denmark.

Why?

Because governments are recognising what individuals increasingly recognise:

Dependency creates vulnerability.

Reliance on foreign proprietary platforms means reliance on:

    • foreign licensing decisions
    • foreign corporate roadmaps
    • foreign legal jurisdictions
    • foreign political stability

The Great Irony: Linux Already Runs the World

Here is the part casual users often miss: Linux may still be niche on consumer desktops, but it already powers much of the digital world.

Linux runs:

    • most of the web’s server infrastructure
    • the overwhelming majority of supercomputers globally
    • vast portions of cloud computing infrastructure
    • countless embedded and industrial systems
    • even Android is based on a modified version of the Linux kernel

In other words:

Linux is not an outsider technology.

It is the backbone of modern computing.

The desktop is merely catching up.

A Warning to America — And An Opportunity for Europe

The United States should not assume technological dominance is permanent.

Consumers, institutions and governments are increasingly asking difficult questions:

    • Who controls our infrastructure?
    • Who governs our data?
    • What happens if political alignment breaks?
    • Why are we so dependent on foreign platforms for essential digital life?

If American tech firms continue to treat lock-in as strategy and complacency as entitlement, they may discover that dominance breeds resistance.

Meanwhile Europe has an opportunity.

Not necessarily to replace Silicon Valley overnight.

But to build credible alternatives.

To invest in open standards.
To support interoperable software.
To back European cloud and software infrastructure.
To treat digital autonomy as seriously as energy autonomy.

The next decade may not produce a mass exodus from American technology.

But the direction of travel is becoming harder to ignore.

Slowly, unevenly, but unmistakably.

Final Thought

My move to Linux will not alter geopolitics.

But it is, in its own small way, an expression of a wider conviction:

That technology should serve its user.
That infrastructure should remain contestable.
That dependency should never become invisible.

Linux is not merely for hobbyists anymore.

It is increasingly for those asking a larger question:

Who should control the tools on which modern life depends?

“In times of change, the learners inherit the earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped for a world that no longer exists.”
Eric Hoffer

They fuck you up, your mum and dad

The Family: Where Human Flourishing Begins

We live in an age inclined to treat the family as merely one lifestyle choice among many: important perhaps, but ultimately interchangeable with any arrangement sufficiently loving and well-intentioned.

Yet history, psychology and ordinary human experience suggest otherwise.

Before the state, before schools, before therapists and welfare systems, there was the family.

It is there that a child first learns whether the world is safe; whether love is conditional; whether conflict destroys or can be survived; whether authority protects or humiliates; whether they themselves are fundamentally secure and wanted.

Long before formal education begins, the family has already taught its curriculum.

Why Family Matters

Healthy family life gives a child the internal structure from which adulthood is built: security, attachment, discipline, resilience, self-worth, emotional regulation, and a workable model of intimacy.

No family can guarantee psychological health. Human beings are too complex for guarantees and there are always external factors at play beyond the family’s control.

But stable, loving family life remains the environment most likely to produce adults capable of trust, responsibility and emotional maturity.

Children do not simply hear what parents say. They absorb what parents are and often copy what they do.

They learn from atmosphere more than instruction, from example more than ideals, from what is lived more than what is preached.

When Family Fails

But if the family is where health begins, it is also where damage often begins.

The same intimacy that nurtures can wound most deeply. The same bonds that create belonging can transmit fear, shame, addiction, insecurity, emotional neglect, and distorted ideas of love.

And the most dangerous aspect of family dysfunction is that it rarely appears dramatic from the inside. To a child, home is simply normal. What is repeated on a daily basis becomes invisible.

Many adults spend half their lives discovering that what they thought was personality, fate, or bad luck was in fact inherited emotional architecture.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” ― C.G. Jung

This truth is captured powerfully in the closing moments of the Netflix drama Adolescence, when the parents are left confronting the unbearable possibility that what has gone wrong in their son may not be separable from what was formed in their home. It is a fictional scene, but one recognisable to many families: the dawning awareness that neither parental love nor parental mistakes alone cause damage to a child.

Through a Glass, darkly — Family

From my memoir, Teacher, There Are Things That I Don’t Want to Learn (significantly redacted in order to protect my children)

The family is the first, best, and original department of health, education, and welfare. The question is: what if it goes wrong? What if the wrong is passed on? And how can it ever be put right?

What follows is not accusation, just an inventory of what moved downstream.

In prison, I began to see not only the dysfunction in my own parents, but how faithfully I’d copied it. I had fooled myself by pointing to my rebellion — I didn’t smoke, I voted Labour, I hated football, I jettisoned their culture and accent — yet I had replicated their marriage almost exactly. I was the charismatic workaholic in charge of everything; my wife stayed passively at home. Without discussion, we traded my selfish busyness under the lights for her quiet withdrawal behind the scenes.

I inherited my father’s drinking, his love-hate with public speaking, and his fear of sexual shame; from my mother, her retreat from the world when overwhelmed, and her habit of abandoning people once they’d served their purpose. From my grandmother I learned how to cook, keep house, and draw attention toward myself as the golden boy — the shining charmer whose light dimmed everyone else.

Only what was genuine seems to have survived in our four children: resilience, manners, a hatred of racism, a creative streak, a love of travel and sport, and gratitude. So yes, family goes wrong — and what goes wrong is passed on, along with what was good. Can it ever be put right? I doubt it. Maybe it isn’t meant to be. But I’ve learned, as both son and father, that while you can’t go back or make it up to your children, you can stop it, through self-awareness and responsibility, from getting worse.

Grace in parenting is complicated. We hand down the worst with the best, model life badly, and often fail to hear our children’s cries — like my son’s warning that I “worked to rest.” Yet we cannot control everything: peers, culture, the online world, the strange chemistry of temperament. Our children are miraculous mixtures of countless influences. We must accept our share of responsibility without assuming all the blame.

Grace also looks like this: once we are parents, we remain parents until we die. However badly we fail, that bond is indelible. Our only hope is that our children will become better parents than us — both despite us, and because of us.

Breaking the Chain

No one emerges from family life unmarked. The question is what we will do with that knowledge as we discover it. We cannot undo the past. We cannot parent again the children already grown. We cannot demand retroactive healing from those we wounded.

But we can become conscious. We can tell the truth. We can take responsibility for what is ours without arrogantly assuming all blame for what is not. And we can refuse to pass on everything we received.

That may be the most realistic form of redemption available to any parent. And, in that context, I wish every mother a peaceful and re-assuring Mother’s Day this coming Sunday.

“Every child begins the world again.” — Henry David Thoreau

Who is God, really?

A man lies on the floor, staring up at heaven.
Light breaks through painted clouds. A hand reaches toward another — creation, divinity, meaning itself, captured in a single moment.

But from another angle, the sky is a ceiling. The divine is pigment. The gesture, for all its beauty, is human.

And the question for me, after two decades of fundamentalist Christianity, began there: have we been looking at our own creation all along?

If we look at everything that human beings have produced — art, language, moral codes, religion — God looks, in many ways, like our most sophisticated mirror. Literally every culture has invented (or discovered) some concept of a higher order: the ground of being, the ultimate judge, the cosmic parent. These images shift according to what any given society most needs or fears. In that sense, the God we talk about, the God with attributes, motives and commandments, is a human construction: a symbolic language for meaning, morality and mortality.

But that doesn’t automatically mean there is nothing beyond us. There’s a second, deeper question: whether our intuition that there is something conscious, ordering or transcendent that points to reality or whether it is simply an evolved illusion. Science can’t answer that question yet. What it can say is that mystical experience, moral intuition and awe all register in human brains as real and powerful phenomena. Whether they’re merely responses to something external or to our own depth is open.

If you push me personally, based on everything I’ve seen, read and experiences — I’d say this:

“What we call God may not be the source of our meaning, but the shape our need for meaning takes when we project it beyond ourselves.”

That’s not neutral. It’s a conviction that the word God is man-made, but the intuition behind it may be a genuine encounter with the structure of reality itself.

If there is something real behind the intuition of God, but it’s not a personal deity with emotions, commandments and preferences, then we have to rethink what faith, morality and meaning mean.

1. Ethically

Without a personal God, morality stops being obedience to an external authority and becomes alignment with reality itself.
If the “ground of being” is the structure out of which everything arises — consciousness, life, relationship — then to live morally is to live in harmony with that structure: honesty instead of delusion, compassion instead of domination, truth instead of manipulation.
Sin, in that framework, isn’t breaking divine rules; it’s acting against the grain of reality, damaging what is most real in ourselves and others.

2. Existentially

It removes the childish comfort of a sky-parent, but also the terror of divine punishment.
You can’t bargain with such a God; you can only participate in it.
Prayer becomes attention.
Worship becomes awe and gratitude.
Salvation becomes awakening: the recognition that you were never separate from the source to begin with.

3. Psychologically

Humans projected “God” outward because it’s hard to face the abyss of meaning and fear of death alone. But if the transcendent is immanent, built into consciousness itself, then our experience moves from obedience to discovery.
The “voice of God” becomes conscience, insight, intuition, the part of you that knows when you are betraying truth. That’s not delusion; it’s evolution giving us a compass.

4. Culturally

It explains why religions keep being both beautiful and dangerous. They are metaphors that became institutions — attempts to express the ineffable that hardened into dogma.
The task of a spiritually mature species might be to keep the poetry and let go of the literalism: to treat scripture as myth that reveals truth, not as truth that forbids doubt and causes division.

So:

If there is a real ground of being but no personal deity, then “God” is not Someone to worship but Something to wake up to.
The ethical life becomes an act of participation, not submission.
Heaven is clarity, not geography.

If we strip away the idea of a personal God but keep the intuition that there is a real ground of being, something that is truth, consciousness and life itself, then guilt, forgiveness and redemption become psychological-spiritual processes, not legal or supernatural ones.

1. Guilt

In this view, guilt isn’t a divine sentence; it’s the psyche’s alarm system.
It signals that you’ve moved out of alignment with what is real and life-affirming. When you deceive, harm, or instrumentalise others, you challenge your own coherence. The pain of guilt is not punishment but feedback: reality pushing you to restore integrity.

The problem is that most people either drown in guilt or silence it.
Religion often worsened that by turning guilt into debt, something owed to an external judge.
But in this framework, guilt is diagnostic, not damnatory.
You listen to it, trace it to its cause, and let it guide you back to truth.

2. Forgiveness

If there’s no divine being to forgive, then forgiveness must emerge within consciousness itself.
You can’t erase the past, but you can integrate it, see it truthfully, feel the pain, and let understanding dissolve the need for vengeance.
Forgiveness becomes a recognition of shared brokenness: that whoever harmed you (or whoever you harmed) was acting from ignorance, fear, or distortion.

Forgiving doesn’t mean excusing; it means releasing your identity as either the guilty or the victim.
You step out of the narrative of debt and punishment and into the reality that everyone is stumbling toward wholeness.

3. Redemption

Without a divine judge, redemption is not being declared clean — it’s becoming real again.
It’s the return to inner coherence after self-betrayal.
You redeem yourself by telling the truth, repairing what you can, and allowing compassion, not self-pity, to re-root you in reality.
It’s the same pattern you see in psychotherapy, art, confession, and love: the movement from concealment → exposure → integration.

4. The Shape of Grace

Even without a theistic God, something like “grace” still exists.
When you tell the truth, life has a way of meeting you with unexpected gentleness, not because someone decides to forgive you, but because truth itself is healing.
Reality is merciless with lies but merciful with honesty.

If you accept that, then the task of the guilty person is no longer to appease a deity but to become whole, to stop fragmenting themselves with denial.
And the task of the forgiver is not to absolve but to see: to understand enough that hatred dissolves into clarity.

Redemption isn’t about being declared innocent. It’s about becoming real again. The moment I stopped trying to defend the person I had been, something in me unclenched. The shards started fitting together, not into the old shape, but into something rougher, truer, almost beautiful in its fractures.

Grace, I realised, isn’t God sparing you. It’s reality allowing you to continue, to try again, to live in truth instead of illusion.

The glass doesn’t become clean; it becomes transparent. And through it, you see both your own reflection and the world beyond, no longer separate, no longer opposed.

We may never know whether there is something beyond us. But we can know this: the God we speak of bears an unmistakable human shape.

We painted the ceiling. We lay beneath it. And over time, we forgot that we had done so.

What remains is not emptiness, but a more difficult honesty: the possibility that meaning does not descend from above, but emerges from within, asking not for worship, but for a truth that is higher than faith.

“Theology is anthropology… the object of any subject is nothing else than the subject’s own nature taken objectively.”  – Ludwig Feuerbach

When breaking the law is the right thing to do

When Absolutes Meet Life: The Ten Commandments in a World of Grey Zones

Introduction: Granite Pillars, Shifting Ground

The Ten Commandments stand like granite pillars in the moral imagination of the West. Their clarity and simplicity — do not lie, do not steal, do not kill — promise a moral compass that transcends culture, time and circumstance.

Yet the moment we bring them into the tangle of real life, absolutes begin to rub against exceptions.

Take truth-telling: you shall not bear false witness. But if lying spares the hunted from a tyrant’s soldiers, can we still call it sin?

Or killing: you shall not murder. What of the soldier who fires not from hatred but to liberate, or the doctor who relieves excruciating suffering when life is otherwise ebbing away?

The commandments do not disappear. But they begin to bend under the weight of reality.

Where the Commandments Begin to Fracture

Each commandment, when examined closely, reveals a fault line:

    • Do not lie → What if a lie saves a life?
    • Do not kill → What about self-defence, war, euthanasia?
    • Do not steal → What if a starving person takes bread?
    • Honour your parents → What if they are abusive?
    • Keep the Sabbath → What if healing or survival requires breaking it?

Even the Hebrew scriptures acknowledge this tension:
David eats sacred bread when starving. Rahab lies and is praised.

The pattern is consistent: when strict obedience collides with human dignity, compassion begins to override rule.

Modern Grey Zones: Where Ethics Gets Uncomfortable

The ancient dilemmas have not disappeared. They have intensified.

1. Civil Disobedience and Tax Resistance

If citizens believe a war is unjust, are they morally obliged to fund it?

If millions refused to pay taxes in protest, would that be:

    • theft from the state?
    • or moral courage against injustice?

History complicates the answer. Figures like Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. framed civil disobedience not as lawlessness, but as obedience to a higher law.

Yet the danger is obvious: if everyone decides individually which laws to obey, social order collapses. So where is the line — between conscience and chaos?

2. State Policies and Human Life

Consider population control policies that have led, directly or indirectly, to the killing of female infants. Is this:

    • a utilitarian attempt to manage resources?
    • or a violation of the most basic moral law — the sanctity of life?

Here the commandment “do not kill” confronts the brutal logic of state planning.

3. Wealth, Environment, and Collective Harm

We do not steal — and yet entire economies extract from the planet in ways that may destroy future generations.

    • Is environmental destruction a form of theft from the unborn?
    • Does profit justify long-term harm?

The commandments were written for individuals.
But today, systems commit what individuals once did.

4. Truth in the Age of Power

“Do not bear false witness” once meant lying in court. Now it includes:

    • political disinformation
    • media manipulation
    • algorithmic distortion

When truth itself becomes a battlefield, the commandment remains, but its application becomes infinitely more complex.

A Personal Dilemma: When Every Commandment Collides

There was a moment when all of this ceased to be theoretical for me.

My mother came to visit me in Germany. At the airport, she was pushed over by an impatient passenger in one of those electric buggies. The fall seemed minor at the time, but it accelerated everything. Her health declined rapidly. Incontinence. Dementia. Depression.

Her GP made a suggestion. We could simulate a bladder infection. That would justify a hospital admission. From there, she would be transferred to a care home for short-term recovery — and, most likely, remain there long-term.

It would mean lying. It would mean manipulating the system. It would mean, in some sense, taking resources that were not strictly ours.

And yet the alternative was to watch her deteriorate without adequate care.

In that moment, the commandments did not line up neatly. They collided.

    • Do not lie — and yet the lie would open the door to care.
    • Do not steal — and yet the system existed precisely to care for the vulnerable.
    • Do not covet — and yet I envied those whose lives were not constrained by such responsibility.
    • Do not kill — and yet I felt flashes of rage toward the woman who had pushed her, a dark instinct that shocked me.

In the end, I followed the doctor’s advice.

My mother received excellent care. She lived for another seven years, safe, supported, and dignified in ways that would not otherwise have been possible.

Looking back, I still ask the question: was it right?

In the language of absolute rules, perhaps not.
In the language of lived reality, I believe it was.

And yet I cannot prove it was right.
I can only say that it was human.

The Real Question: Rules or Responsibility?

The deeper issue is not whether the commandments are right.

It is whether they can ever be applied without interpretation.

    • Absolute rules offer clarity.
    • Real life demands judgment.

Too much rigidity → cruelty in the name of morality.
Too much flexibility → chaos disguised as freedom.

We are left in tension.

A Different Way to Read the Commandments

Perhaps the commandments were never meant to function as rigid laws in every conceivable situation.

Perhaps they are moral directions rather than mechanical rules:

    • not “never lie,” but protect truth and trust
    • not “never kill,” but honour the sacredness of life
    • not “never steal,” but respect what belongs to others

In this reading, the spirit matters more than the letter.

But that raises a dangerous possibility: who decides what the “spirit” requires?

Between Fanaticism and Relativism

This is where modern ethics fractures into two extremes:

    • Fanaticism → rigid obedience, even when it harms
    • Relativism → anything can be justified

Neither is sufficient.

The real challenge is harder: to hold onto moral clarity without losing moral intelligence.

Conclusion: The Burden of Being Human

The commandments remain.

But they no longer stand untouched on distant stone tablets.
They stand within us — contested, interpreted, lived.

To be human is not simply to obey rules.
It is to carry the burden of deciding when, and how, they apply.

And that burden cannot be escaped.

Closing quotation

“He who fights with monsters should see to it that he himself does not become a monster… for when you gaze long into the abyss, the abyss gazes also into you.”
Friedrich Nietzsche

Social Media Bans for Under 16s

Why banning social media for under-16s may feel right — but fails to address the real issue

There is a growing political appetite to ban social media for under-16s. Governments in countries such as Australia and Indonesia have already moved in this direction, driven by rising concern about anxiety, depression, and the psychological effects of digital life.

The instinct is understandable. But it may also be wrong.

The comfort of the ban

A ban is politically attractive because it is clear, decisive and easy to communicate. It signals protection. It tells a worried public that something is being done.

But it also avoids a harder question.

Why has social media become so central to childhood in the first place?

Policy without evidence

The Cambridge psychologist Sander van der Linden has been unusually blunt. There is, he argues, “zero empirical evidence” that banning social media for teenagers improves outcomes.

His warning is not ideological but methodological:

“Blindly instituting wholesale bans for teens takes the ‘evidence’ out of evidence-based policy.”

This matters. Because once policy is driven primarily by anxiety, it becomes vulnerable to simplification.

And simplification is exactly what this issue does not need.

The variability problem

Social media does not affect all children in the same way.

For some, it amplifies vulnerability: comparison, exclusion, anxiety.
For others, it provides connection, identity and support. As well as of course access to information for school work.

The outcome depends on:

    • personality
    • patterns of use
    • existing mental health
    • social environment

A blanket ban assumes uniform harm where there is, in reality, radical variation.

The misdiagnosis

More fundamentally, a ban risks targeting the wrong thing.

The problem is not simply that children use social media. It is that social media have been designed to capture attention:

    • infinite scroll
    • algorithmic reinforcement
    • intermittent rewards

These are not neutral features. They are behavioural systems.

Yet instead of regulating the environment, we regulate the child.

We restrict the user because we do not confront the system.

The illusion of control

Even on practical grounds, bans are fragile.

    • Teenagers will bypass them
    • Peer groups will remain online
    • The demand for connection will persist
    • Evidence shows that the dangers are greater once hidden underground

The behaviour does not disappear. It relocates. More importantly, a ban does not teach navigation. It postpones exposure.

From protection to preparation

Van der Linden’s alternative is not permissiveness, but preparation:

    • early digital literacy
    • gradual exposure
    • critical thinking
    • resilience

In short:

Not protection through restriction, but protection through competence.

The question beneath the question

But even this may not be the deepest layer because the focus on social media obscures a more uncomfortable possibility.

Over recent decades, childhood has changed:

    • less independent movement
    • less unsupervised play
    • more adult control
    • more structured time

Children are safer, and yet less free.

We did not simply give children smartphones.
We removed much of the world they would otherwise have enjoyed.

Social media did not replace childhood.
In some respects, it stepped into a space that had already been narrowed.

Conclusion

The case for concern about social media is strong.
The case for banning it is not.

As Sander van der Linden argues, policy should be guided by evidence, not urgency or political posturing. At present, the evidence for bans is thin, while the complexity of the problem is substantial.

If we want children to spend less time online, we will have to do something more difficult than passing laws.

We will have to ask what kind of childhood we are willing to allow.

“Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive.”              – C.S. Lewis